Some of you know that I’ve spent most of my twenties working and studying and…okay, I admit it…dating. A lot. I used to do one or two dates with someone and then immediately dismiss them if they had at least three things I didn’t like about them. I used to hear people tell me all the time that I was being too picky, or that I needed to lower my standards. I didn’t care. I was too busy to give someone time if I knew wouldn’t work out with them in the end.
When I turned 30, my mother signed me up for this Indian marriage site. It was embarrassing but I knew she had good intentions. I never went on it unless it was for laughs, and when she asked me to give one of my matches a chance, I’d try and it would end HORRIBLY.
So a year ago, when this software engineer liked my profile and my mother gave me the heads up that I should look at it, I had NO FAITH whatsoever. But then the profile said that he was born and raised in a small town like me, he liked the same music, and he was looking for someone who was passionate about something, ANYTHING, because the bar scene was getting old.
I decided to take a chance, and responded to his message. Three weeks later, we met at a seafood restaurant on the water in Delaware. That’s when he said to me “I think we should be official. Like you and me. No one else. Boyfriend and girlfriend.”
I took a moment to think and realized that this guy didn’t have ANYTHING about him that I didn’t like. I mean, sure, there were quirks, everyone has them, but nothing that would equate to a ‘strike’ for my rule of three.
I said yes.
He came up to celebrate Christmas with me and my family that year. I met his parents shortly after that. We moved in together ten months later. One year and 28 days after we started talking, he asked me to marry him and I said yes again. We’re getting married, and we’re having an Indian wedding, and my book is coming out around the same time…so needless to say, I’ll be busy.
But man, I never thought I’d get a happily ever after like this and I’ve never felt so blessed in my life.