I turned 32 last week.
I’m no longer the youngest writer in my writer group. I’m no longer the youngest manager and/or director at my company. I’m no longer the youngest member of my book club. I’m 32 freaking years old and…
well, I’m okay with it. I earned those 32 years. Every scar on my face, every cellulite mark, every white hair is a sign that I’ve lived this long and survived. Okay, not just survived but done pretty good for myself.
At 30, I realized that I hadn’t really LIVED as much as I should’ve. So, I set out to make my 30s the most amazing times of my life. Year 30 was pretty amazing. Year 31? A bunch of ups and downs, but overall, it was also pretty fabulous. So here are the top eight things I learned from my 31st year.
1.When you’re single, and your jerk married friends are all self righteous and say obnoxious things like ‘you’ll find ‘the one’ when you least expect it’…they were actually right in my case. (I’ll punch them if they gloat though)
2. Selling and buying a house at the same time is SHEER TORTURE. If you can avoid it, please do.
3. Sometimes your parents and you don’t have the same politics. Don’t worry. When the president screws up, you can say ‘I told you so.’
4. Pushing past exhaustion, and self doubt, and self pity to pursue your passion is going to be the hardest thing you ever do. But there will always be a light at the end of the tunnel. For me, my light was my editor sending me an email that started with ‘I am so proud of you and all of your hard work.’
5. I love staying in, but sometimes it’s good for the soul to invite friends over, order Indian food, drink way too much Smirnoff and have an impromptu Bollywood dance party in the living room.
6. Traveling to exotic places like Bali and Cambodia are AMAZING…but coming home to excited puppies and kittens can beat those good feels any day.
7. You may have friends that aren’t really that supportive. Dump them. Stop talking to them. If you’re in the same profession, be professional when you need to be, but that negative energy is so not worth your time. You have bigger fish to fry. (Yes, it’s taken me to 32 to really accept that I can’t make everyone happy. I still struggle with this.
8. Last but not least, people you know and love are going to start leaving this world at a lot more frequent rate the older you get. Cherish the relationships that are important to you, because you never know how long they’ll last.
And that’s it! Here’s to a fabulous year 32. Wish me luck!
Hugs and Kisses,